Surely we all remember the bullies of our day—the unfortunate among us may even recall being stuffed in a locker, spat on, or shoved to the ground. And over the years we have been inundated with explicit examples of the bully archetype. Think Angelica Pickles from “Rugrats” who got a kick out of exploiting and manipulating her cousin and his friends. Think Sid from “Toy Story” who ignited other kids’ toys for his own enjoyment. Think Johnny Lawrence from the Karate Kid (hopefully you’re not too young to remember him!) who was violent, intimidating, and utterly relentless.
Bullying has been around forever. But perhaps the ways in which we think about, and conceptualize bullying behaviors have changed.
A few weeks ago, Independent School Magazine published an article by school counselor Susan Porter called “Why Our Approach to Bullying is Bad” . In it, Porter talks about the “bullying scourge” that is sweeping our nation’s schools and the ways in which our expanding definition of bullying has contributed to the epidemic level of bullying.
Indeed, recent years have seen a surge in the prevalence of reported bullying.
A 2009 survey by Wang et al. asked adolescents to report whether they had bullied someone, or been bullied in the last two months. The results? The prevalence of involvement in bullying was 20.8% physical, 53.6% verbal, 51.4% social, and 13.6% electronic . At first glance, these high numbers suggest that kids may not really be safe inside or outside of the school environment.
Partly as a result of the high rates of bullying, the issue has gained recognition as an important public health problem3. This is a good thing. Public investment in the issue is critical in order to make progress in reducing bullying behaviors and in working to understand their psychological predictors.
But, is it unwise to call so many kids a bully? And what if it is not the frequency of bullying that has increased, but, as Porter argues, the definition of bullying that has changed and expanded? In other words, what if the definition of bullying now incorporates so much that it is difficult to distinguish between “true bullies” and those who act unkind and callous from time to time—as many kids do?
Most agree that bullying involves an imbalance of power, intent to cause harm, and repetition of harmful acts . However, the current bullying literature still lacks complete consensus on a definition [4, 5]. In her article, Porter argues that based on its many definitions, bullying now includes behaviors that are part of growing up, such as name-calling, teasing, sarcasm, and being unfriendly . Thus, what used to be behaviors associated with normal growth and development are now considered pathological and harmful.
This in no way suggests that bullying does not exist or is not a serious matter. Certainly, society should not ignore children’s misconduct or children’s pain. It does, however, suggest that we need to be careful about our use of stigmatizing and potentially harmful labels, arrive at a clearer, more meaningful definition of bullying, and continue to recognize the complexity of bullying behavior. Greater clarity about what behavior needs to be prohibited is the first step toward developing strategies to prevent or minimize it.
- Porter S. Why Our Approach to Bullying is Bad for Kids. Safe Schools—For a Safer World. Independent School Magazine. 2013;72(2):72-78.
- Wang J, Iannotti RJ, Nansel TR. School bullying among adolescents in the United States: physical, verbal, relational, and cyber. J Adolesc Health. 2009;45:368–375.
- Bullying Definition. stopbullying.gov. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. 2012. Retrieved from http://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/definition/index.html.
- Liu J, Graves N. Childhood bullying: a review of constructs, concepts, and nursing implications. Public Health Nur. 2011; 28(6):556-68.
- Barboza G. Individual characteristics and the multiple contexts of adolescent bullying: An ecological perspective. Journal of Youth and Adolescence. 2009;38(1):101–121.
In my opinion Bullying is a person that purposely demeans, and puts down another human being that is incapable of defending himself, it is a person who has become a huge part of another persons life, not because hes a good friend, but because he has become such a negative part of the other persons life, that it is disgusting to even look at them. I feel that many parents just are not getting too involved with what their children do, thus letting them pick on other people. Bullies tend to do this because they might lack attention at home, and therefore, bullying makes them powerful in areas that the family is not around. I believe violence at home also plays a big role because where else would the child learn his bad behaviors if its not at home or the people around him could also be a big red flag. I just believe that parents taking some time everyday to talk to their children about their day, friends, school, and goals, could help make the family a bit stronger, therefore making the child a better human being.
Bullies are truly an outcome of bad parenting. There are many parents that are not there for their children, and therefore, their children learn bad habits. There may also be violence in their home, and that teaches the child that it is ok to react violently. Another reason that I think bullies come about is that they are simply looking for attention. They most likely do not have that at home, and want to feel important. They want someone to care for them, and help them make the right choices. However, I agree that many times these children are labeled as bullies. When you label a person, they tend to believe in that label and behave more like it. Calling someone a bully everyday, will turn them into a worse bully.